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That restless fire in your soul—it’s not fading until you face it.

You’ve got a lot going right—parts of your life locked in, humming along. But at home, in your relationships, in your faith? It’s not where you want it. You’re hungry for connection that’s rock-solid and alive, a purpose that lights up your world, a fire that holds steady no matter what. You weren’t built to settle—you were built to blaze.

I’m Steve Pare. Five decades of life have forged me in fires I didn’t see coming:

Pastor and failed church planter—doors shut, but I kept moving.
Nurse in hospice, psych, and detox—raw moments that hit hard.
Healthcare leader and entrepreneur—shaped under pressure.
Decades of marriage and parenting—love carved out the hard way.

Those roles—especially the failures, the fights, and the moments staring down death—burned away the fluff. They taught me what it means to live with faith that’s real, purpose that’s steady, and relationships that don’t settle for surface-level fixes. I’ve felt that hunger, that restless pull, and I’ve walked the road toward something deeper.

You feel it too: the call to be more—a partner who loves with intention, a parent who leads with strength, a person whose faith isn’t just talk but a steady fire burning deep. It’s not a free ride—nothing good is—but you’re ready to step into it, whatever it takes.

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One call. No fluff, no pressure—just us figuring out if I’m the right one to walk with you toward the fire you’re chasing. Book a free discovery call now. Spots fill fast, and you’re not one to wait.

Let’s see what happens when someone like you catches fire.

Peace,
Steve

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The leadership and guidance of Mr. Pare was provided with genuine care and integrity. He initiated the sharing in a comfortable and empathetic manner.

With great skill and obvious care Mr. Pare posed challenging, probing and provocative lines of questioning with authenticity that was irresistible. He has a unique style of communicating that is internally fortifying and even stabilizing as well. He gently motivates looking through the lens of the spirit in examining where the Holy Spirit is leading experientially.

This was a most valuable experience for me in that I enjoyed the freedom of expressing my human and spiritual internal world. Especially, with a true experienced and insightful brother that engaged me with the sensitivity reflective of the Holy Spirit. In a number of ways I feel the most valuable part was the level of clarification in his communications.

Finally, throughout the experience Mr. Pare prayerfully set the stage for a genuine empathic encounter at the human and spiritual level. He is a true blessing indeed.

Respectfully,

Curtis

Spiritual Directee

I have met with Steve Pare for over a year for spiritual counseling and without reservation recommend him as a sensitive, insightful, and spiritually aware counselor for anyone trying to navigate the various hurts and struggles of living.

My experience with other therapists, most of whom have been secular, is that they miss what I have come to believe is the core of distress: a failure to bring God into the solution. Steve’s orientation is always toward Jesus and his technique is to bring His presence into the conversation from the very start of the session and then to nudge the client into a conscious re-orientation to Him as s/he becomes immersed in discussing his/her problem. Rather than proffering answers to the individual’s suffering, Steve redirects the client’s attention to the help that is nearby and guides him/her to invite Jesus in through stillness and listening. I personally have found that as I do so, my interpretation of and feelings about painful events invariably shift in the atmosphere of Jesus’ loving presence and Steve’s steadiness, acceptance, and spiritual strength.

The message Steve’s technique conveys is profound because it generously extends – but simultaneously sets limits to -- human support while gradually teaching the client the habit of turning again and again to the source of healing.

Karen W.

Spiritual Directee

FAQ

What is spiritual direction?

What can I expect?

Why is there a fee?

Do I need to be a Christian or believe a certain way to benefit from Spiritual Direction?

What is your Statement of Faith?

The best articulation I have found to answer this question is taken directly from where I was trained as a Spiritual Director, the School of Sustainable Faith:

One of the earliest christocentric statements of faith comes from the apostle Peter. After Jesus asks his disciples what others are saying about him, he points the question at them: “And who do you say I am?” Peter answers simply: “You’re the Messiah.” In Peter’s limited understanding, he likely meant, “I believe God has singled you out to rescue us from the Romans and restore all that we as a people have lost.” Peter was mostly clueless about the nature of the rescue and restoration this Messiah would provide. But his response delighted Jesus, who said, “Blessed are you... for my Father in heaven has revealed this to you.”

We get something of the same from one of the two criminals executed with Jesus. The unnamed man hanging beside Jesus offers nothing approximating a modern statement of faith. It’s more a hope that Jesus is in fact some unrecognized king who will acquire some unnamed kingdom. And with this hope his soul utters its final cry, an 11th hour humble request to be remembered post-mortem by Jesus. Once again, this is enough for Jesus, who kindly says, “Today you’ll be in paradise with me.”

Paul singles out the core elements of his gospel to be that Christ died for our sins, was buried, was resurrected on the third day, and then appeared to numerous people alive at that time. (1 Corinthians 15) From these and other simple statements of faith we move through centuries of time toward longer and more detailed creeds, the growth of which was fueled by heterodox theologies to which the creeds were a response. Consequently, we move from Paul’s statement to the Old Roman Symbol to the Apostolic Creed to the Nicene Creed and beyond. If you’re looking here for a credal statement of that nature, a list of theological propositions to which we assent so you can determine if we pass muster, we’ll disappoint you. For us it’s enough to say we love Jesus and feel we have nowhere else to turn; that he is our Savior – the Way, Truth and Life; that he reflected to us the faithfulness and lovingkindness of the Father in concrete ways; that he remains with us in and through the presence of the Holy Spirit; and that in him we have undying life. We also confess that whatever we think these things mean, we’re likely as clueless as Peter and the criminal were. Yet we think that confession pleases God, and we offer you here at the end an excerpt from a well-known prayer of Thomas Merton:

I have no idea where I am going. I do not see the road ahead of me. I cannot know for certain where it will end, nor do I really know myself, and the fact that I think I am following your will does not mean that I am actually doing so. But I believe that the desire to please you does in fact please you. And I hope I have that desire in all that I am doing. I hope that I will never do anything apart from that desire.

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